Some of the rules I used to live by were don't make a fuss, don't be seen, do what is expected, don't be different. This came to play particularly in the work setting. I had a full-time career job. Good pay, good benefits and the work was related to my schooling. Exactly what everyone is striving for right? But, the job was not a good fit at all. I knew this going on in, but I went in on a short-term contract so I figured it would be ok for that amount of time. Then daily my self-confidence was eroded by a lot of things.
So, why did I stay? Really, why didn't I just say no in the first place. Well, it was supposed to be what I was striving for. It also was the "safe" decision. Don't take a risk, don't leave, keep the sure thing. In the end it turned out to be one of the most dangerous places as my mental health took a real beating. It almost destroyed me.
What's the lesson here? I need some new rules to live by. My life can't be about the safe decision, it can't be about what other people think I should want. I know that I will likely always be vulnerable to mental health challenges and so I need to consider that. I need to trust my gut, or my heart, or whatever you want to call it. If something in me says this isn't right, I need to pay attention to that.
By making safe decisions I have put myself in many situations that were soul destroying and not soul building. I've known that many decisions were not that best ones and yet I kept along that path in order to no make a fuss or be different. Being true to myself is a challenging road, but it is the one rule I need to live by, always.
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